A letter to my 15 year-old self

Dear Keji, 

I know Secondary school is a bit tough right now, what with GSCEs coming up but stay strong. I know it's a lonely time for you right now. I see you spend a lot of time in the library with not so many friends but don't let it affect you, it's only for a while. 

Yes, I know you only received one valentine card in school while the other girls got plenty and you never went on any dates but don't be discouraged, it's not all that a big deal, and trust me.  those same guys when school is done are going to be the same ones asking you out - but they missed the boat. You will have more guys than you can count trying to date and marry you. Believe me.

There are a few things I would like for you to do. Expose yourselves to activities and pursue your passions. Yes, I know that guy said, "Keji, you're a good singer but you don't really have the looks to go that far." Don't let people's negativity kill your confidence. You are beautiful and talented.

There are so many good things that are in store for you and accomplishments you have to achieve. 

Don't worry about not being allowed to go to the raves and clubs, they're not all they're cracked up to be. Trust Me. As far as having the up to date fashion, don't stress. Everyone shops at more or less the same places in the 21st Century: Primark, Forever21,H&M, Zara. It's whatever! Some even do Vintage - posh name for second hand clothing. 

But Keji Be yourself AT ALL TIMES. It really doesn't matter whether or not they like you. You are a considerate, caring and loving person, and you know that so it doesn't matter if people get you wrong.

Smile more.

Strive to keep your good friends you have made. You'll cherish having those old friends by your side in later life.

Learn to speak out more rather than letting things fester and getting angry.

Study harder.

Surround yourself with go-getters.

The best thing about your life, in a few years time you will realise Seyi's mum was talking sense with all this Jesus-talk and 'Born Again' spiel. 

I know you are intelligent and you know your virginity is precious. I'm happy you cherish it. Everyone supposedly is enjoying themselves and having sex - A lot of these same girls right now are regretting the decisions they made at this time. Don't be a 'hard rock' when you really are a 'gem'. 

By the way, you will know what love is one day.

I love you even if you don't feel that way about yourself or your life right now. 

Keji x