What's your reference point?

Hey all,

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This blog is one of my more thought-provoking blogs. At least not everything is work and play, sometimes we have to sit back, examine, assess and do an internal audit. This blog was inspired by a video uploaded by Tyrese Gibson.

Someone I know, who is an aspiring entrepreneur said to me that he counts Aliko Dangote as one of his role models in the business world. Now, if you don't know Aliko Dangote, then you need to. He's a Nigerian billionaire businessman on the Forbes List and Africa's richest man.

It made me think...

We as human beings are multi-faceted in our role on planet earth i.e. daughter or son; sister or brother; mother or father; uncle or aunt; employer or employee; husband or wife. You see what I mean? So my question is, in whichever sphere of life you are operating, what or who is your reference point? As an entrepreneur, as a Christian, as a wife, as a friend etc. The list is endless. Some may have a particular quote, book or poem that is their personal mantra for life whereas others have people.

We live in a time where we lack mentor-ship and guidance. Coming from a Nigerian background I am proud to say I have many second and third 'mothers' and lots of aunties, including those that give unsolicited advice. You even have those, who at times are practically strangers that will enquire about your life, give advice and tips, and maybe even a link-up to help you on your way.

One of my reference points in life is my wonderful father. I must say I don't know many men like him. He can have his 'off' times but I have never met a man so caring, loving, forgiving, understanding, non-argumentative, non-judgemental and humble like him. He's the standard by which I assess a future husband's qualities, not to mention my own.

To those of you who don't or have had bad role models e.g. dead beat dads or mums, people who have let you down, take these as examples to learn from. As much as we need good teachers we also learn lessons from the bad ones of what not to do.

So here's what to do when looking for someone to mentor or help you.

1. Seek out someone you respect.
2. Experience - This doesn't necessarily mean older but someone who knows more and is more
                          experienced than you.
3. Common Interest - It will help if they have already gone through what you are facing.
4. Character  - Many times a protege ('mentee') patterns his or her life after the life of the mentor.    
                          You want to ensure you are following a person that with good moral standing.
5. Availability - Interaction is important, which you may not always find with 'succesful' people
6. Positivity - Positivity breeds positivity, even at times you may be feeling down.
7. Believes in You - If they don't see potential in you, they will never put effort into you.
8. Honest and Open - A two-way open and honest dialogue about oneself builds credibility and
                                     trust.

So in conclusion, everyone needs a reference point or a benchmark by which we attain our own definition of success in life. Thanks again for taking the time to stop by.

For your improvement,

Miss Castano

 xxx

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